A sister once said, that one should be able to walk through Muslim's home with white socks so that in the end of the visit they would still be white.
As much as I agree, the words did not sound right for me.
I forgot the words, until one day it came back to my mind. And I realized what was wrong.
Cleanliness is part of our deen, and besides that, Allah loves beauty.
But if your white socks turn black in sisters house, what do you do?
Do you look around and think how she is lazy to not to clean her house?
That she has too many children as she cannot even manage her home?
That this is not the way Muslim should live, why she doesn't clean her house?
Maybe you get to remind her of hadith clearing the importance of cleanliness?
Or do you just ignore it and drink the coffee she just poured?
Do you chat about daily duties and passed and up-coming events?
Look at her with bunch of kids all busy thinking "mashaAllah, she does not complain even she must be so tired"?
And your socks you will throw to the washing machine when you go home, texting her thanks for the coffee.
Or do you tell her to send her crew to the playground with you and your kids and let her rest a bit or wipe her floor?
Do you ask her how she really is and if she needs some help?
Or if you know her well enough, do you go and take the mop from the closet and give her a hug, whilst heading to mop that dirty floor?
Maybe those dirty socks after all reveal the one who wears them.